HOW TO AVOID THE FRIENDZONE

I made this for a friend who is somehow in friendzone (COZ SHE IS NOT TOTALLY FRIENDZONED BUT BLAHBLAHBLAH). Idk maybe this will help you too so I’m gonna share this to all of you.

1.   Have space

How can you move-on if you kept on sticking with him/her? Well your “friend” might think or will actually think there is something wrong if you will suddenly change your treatment towards with him or her. Maybe you’ll just have to tell your friend that nothing’s wrong or maybe tell him/her that you have cough or a communicable disease and it will take time to heal. (okay lying is so wrong but………….)

2.    Never Assume

If he/she acts sweet or extremely nice towards you, never think it’s because your “friend” feels the same way like you do. It will just hurt so much if you knew about the truth that he/she actually likes someone else. And besides, expectation is the root of all heartache. So never expect nor assume unless you want your heart muscles/tissues to tear apart. (it's scientifically proven, idk if it's the heart tissues or muscles lmao)

3.   Think about the consequences

Think about ALL OF THE CONSEQUENCES if you will stay in that zone further. Think about the what if’s. Think about the things that will be wasted. Maybe my own list of what if's can help you:

·         What if your friend knew about your feelings?

·         What if your friend likes someone else?

·         What if your friend is really treats everyone nicely and he/she doesn’t give you the “special treatment” that you think your friend is giving you?

·         What if your friend won’t notice you anymore?

·         What if your feelings will be the reason for you to lose someone really special to you?

·         What if your friendship will end because of this?

4.   Try to focus on other things

I know you have a senpai and maybe you don’t know anything about senpai anymore because you’re not updated about him/her because you’re too busy thinking about your friend slash VERYVERYVERY SPECIAL FRIEND ermmmmm. Try focusing on senpai again and senpai will surely make you ease the pain or maybe forget the pain! Or maybe, you can focus on your studies (that is the best thing to do like ever!! But it’s hard… lmao), or watch a new tv show, try writing about stuffs or maybe sing and dance to your fave record! Try to forget about those damn feelings for a little while or maybe totally forget about it!

5.   NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH A FRIEND

WELL LASTLY, PLEASE DON’T EVER FALL IN LOVE WITH A FRIEND. WELL THE FIRST FOUR TIPS ARE FOR THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY IN FRIENDZONE, AND 1-4 ARE SOMEHOW TIPS TO ESCAPE THE FRIENDZONE. I INSERTED THIS STATEMENT AT THE LAST PART BECAUSE I WANTED YOU, THE ONE WHO IS ALMOST FALLING IN LOVE WITH A FRIEND, TO HAVE A GLIMPSE OF THE HURT AND PAIN THE FRIENDZONE CAN GIVE. SO THAT YOU CAN THINK IF YOU CAN HANDLE THE PAIN IT CAN GIVE YOU. I KNOW IT’S NOT THAT EASY TO CONTROL YOUR FEELINGS SPECIALLY WHEN YOUR FRIEND REALLY LOVES SITTING BESIDE YOU DURING BREAK TIME OR GIVING YOU FOODS OR HUGGING YOU EVERY TIME HE/SHE APPRECIATES EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO, BUT THINK OF IT, IF YOU WILL FALL FOR HIM/HER, YOU CAN NO LONGER SIT BESIDE HIM/HER DURING BREAK TIME, GIVE YOU YOUR FAVORITE FOODS (double kill!!!) NOR GIVE YOU HUGS WHEN HE/SHE APPRECIATES YOU, IT’S BECAUSE YOU BETRAYED HIM/HER BY FALLING IN LOVE ACCIDENTALLY. NOW THINK OF IT.

p.s

It’s not  bad to fall in love with a friend. Sometimes it can be the best feeling ever! A lot of relationships started with friendships and as they say, relationships which started as friends are the strongest. So maybe just trust your fate and destiny and be open to entertaining other people. AND WAIT EVEN IF IT TAKES FOREVER (wala namang forever so you won't wait a long time). Remember, It’s just two things: your friend is actually your lover or your friend will be your friend fivesixseveneightever!